A tale of two brothers just surviving; one seeking the good life; blissfully ignorant that it was an illusion; while the other pursued spiritual reality; frustrated by the failure of his own efforts. A crucial message of the exchanged life. The authors; a pastor and a psychiatrist; deal with a basic premise of the Christian life?dying to self and offer practical suggestions on how to make dying to self a reality in your life and goes beyond “self help” to provide hope beyond belief.